Can you stay unhappy because you don’t look a certain way that the society, that men, that women want you to look?
Can you live your life in despair and sadness thinking you are not good enough, just because someone else thinks that you are not ? They don’t follow a rule book made by you and your standards. So why should you ?
Can you live your life trying to get validations for your actions by people who don’t even matter in the long run?
Can you disrupt your mental peace because someone thinks you are doing things the wrong way and you need a reality check ?
The fact is everything is subjective.
An entire book can be written on our insecurities and the importance of self love and acceptance. I’ll reduce that to 5 sub-headings below-
If you ask me, I find everyone beautiful, not the snow white kinda beautiful or the Aishwarya Rai Bachchan kinda beautiful. Some have beautiful eyes, some have beautiful face cuts, some have beautiful noses, some have beautiful figures, some have a beautiful smile, some have a beautiful set of teeth and so much more.
It’s time that we ditch thinking how the world sees us. And think beyond the already-set parameters of beauty. Just accept yourself. Love yourself. The entire world will never accept you. It is a fact. People think differently. They reason differently. They see beauty on a wide spectrum. And if you don’t fall into their spectrum, doesn’t mean you ain’t beautiful !
Not good enough
We as humans always have this weird notion that we are not enough. Even I feel that sometimes. I feel as if I’m not channelling my energy in the right direction. The fact is we are too much. Too good. Too deserving. Too capable. You will never be enough for everyone. Just make sure you are enough for yourself.
Look into the mirror and remind yourself everyday of who you are. You are a product of your mistakes, wiser than yesterday because you went through something terrible. You walked through storms and kept walking. You are everything you think you are not.- Taylor Swift.
The need for validation
It wasn’t long ago that I laid the foundation of my entire existence thinking what people thought about me. Thinking how I can please them, how I can be a part of their circle. I guess that phase comes in everybody’s life. But the question is- Does it even matter ?
You are years of work. And you still are a work under progress!
Never judge a rose for her petals. She may still be blooming
Make yourself a priority
All the trouble starts when you try to make someone else happy before you have tried to do the same with you. This is the most important principle of self acceptance.
Imperfections are beautiful
Those black marks on your face, that height you despise, wish you were a fast learner, wish that anger management was on point.
Those stretch marks on your thighs, the lack of confidence that is so evident, wish that you were more emotionally stable, wish you weren’t defeated ever.
The desire to be perfect is unending. How much longer are you going to avoid loving yourself ?
Love yourself. Pamper yourself before you spread that love to someone else. If you think that you need improvement, do that for the sake of yourself and only yourself. We are fighters. We are survivors. We are beautiful not only physically but also on the inside. We are strong. We are a driving force. Let’s not be so hard on ourselves.
Let’s accept ourselves for who we are and love ourselves like we want others to.
This post is a part of the Collaboration with a purpose. The theme for this month is self love and acceptance.
Below are the links of the amazing people participating-
10. Divyang Shah’s Post.