How to deal with fools?Β 

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Who is a fool? A fool doesn’t, necessarily, mean a dumb and silly person, 

1. A person with an unusual and unnecessary big mouth, a victim of poor thoughts and lacks common sense, respect, discipline and honor. A fool is a person who opens his mouth without knowing actual facts. A fool will always deny, disregard and rebel !

2. A person who loves to create scenesloves attention and dramaalways plays the victim and tries to gain sympathy on a sporadic basis.   I Can Smell a WANNABE here !

3. A person obsessed with power, position and career, proud enough to neglect the truth and impulsive enough to overlook matters that are relevant.

4. A person who knows the price of everything, but the value of nothing.

 5. A person who fails to acknowledge your worth, your struggles, your victories, your triumphs and your accolades. Someone who fails to appreciate your competence.

6. A person who sees everyone as a reflection of themselves. Hence, the insecurity!

7. A person who will always complain, condemn and criticize, no matter how you treat them.

8. A person who will drag you to their level and then beat you with experience. They’ll never hesitate to lie, deceive and slander.

9. A Person who will never accept his mistakes and will never greet advices. Someone who can never take the taste of his own medicines.

10. Fools are never responsible for their actions. They’ll always try and put the blame on someone else. With all the trouble they bring on themselves, they’ll repeat the same mistakes, again and again irrespective of the consequences.


WHAT YOU NEED TO DO ?

 1. Silence is the best reply to a fool. But that can be hard at times !

So,

2. Promise to better yourself, ameliorate, with every fool that you encounter. Nothing disgusts a fool more than your success !

3. Don’t  let your pride guide you. Let your accomplishments speak for you. Keep the right attitude and motivation. It is easy to become judgmental and arrogant. So, where’s the difference between a fool and you ?

4. Arguing with a fool is like playing chess with a pigeon. NO MATTER HOW GOOD YOU ARE, THE PIGEON IS GOING TO SHIT ON THE BOARD AND STRUT AROUND LIKE IT WON ANYWAY ! Your mind will tempt you to answer a fool, argue with them, so pray for your self control and patience !

5. Once in a while, Play the role of a fool, to fool a fool, who thinks they are fooling you. Else you’ll end up in pain, frustration, anger and confusion.

6. Treat them like rocks and furniture and papers and rugs. The more importance you give them, the more ammunition they get to continue with their foolishness.

7. A fool flatters himself. A wise man flatters a fool.πŸ˜†

8. Prepare boundaries and protect yourself from being harmed by the fools.

9. No one is there in your life without a purpose. No one is there by accident. Your challenge is to see the bigger picture and respond accordingly.

10. Don’t try to change them.

Don’t waste your breath on fools, for they will despise the wisest advice. 

(Proverbs 23:9).

 



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7.1 Billion people on this globe, why let one person (break-up) dictate you?

​As Taylor Swift rightly said, Heartbreak is the national anthem and we sing it proudly. 

So I dedicate this post to my Generation.

Heartbreak. One word and countless memories come flashing back. Doesn’t it? Well that’s why breakups are so hard. They leave you devastated, especially if things don’t end well. 

Loving someone and being in love are two different emotions. After a breakup we blame ourselves. Start finding flaws in us. But is it always us ? NO ! Romantic relationships are always Symbiotic/Mutual. Taali kabhi ek haath se nai bajti. [ You can never clap with a single hand ].

The morning next to your breakups are the most difficult ones. You wake up, nice and happy, and before you can even think, reality dawns upon you. That sense of void, that sense of loss and hopelessness can not be described in paper. You feel it because you loved, loved hard, hard enough to fall, to get hurt, get bruised and still love. I used to feel a flood of emotions overwhelm me all at once, but I felt so empty. I still tried, but I was rewarded with blunt replies.

Breakups make you question your role as an individual and your ability as a partner. You feel so unwanted and isolated. Anxiety starts creeping in. We are all deep oceans of insecurities and a breakup exposes them all. I was so dependent on him. I had lost a lot of friends. Worst day? When he gathered enough courage to tell me about his lost interest in me. Those words kept replaying over and over again until I was on the brisk of disgust. My throat was about to explode with a vile mixture of anger and frustration. His words had cut me like a sharp knife. WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY, WHEN I WAS ALL CHOKED UP AND HE WAS OKAY?

For days, I had avoided social situations for the fear of being misjudged, humiliated and embarrassed. I grieved for  months. Grieving helps, because it gives you hope and strength to face the melancholy of life with dignity. And moreover, no one has ever died mourning over a breakup. πŸ˜‚

Sleep. Food. Movies. These are the common escapes from reality. Months of avalanche of painful emotions, made me question myself, What was I outside this relationship? 

That was my transition. My greatest wake-up call.

I started this blog just after my breakup. I had never written before. So my biggest challenge was giving words to my emotions. I couldn’t talk about my breakup to anyone, so I started writing. Fiercely. I also started interacting with a lot of people and hearing their struggles and stories gave me hope and motivated me to write. I started glass painting, served as an apprentice to a friend’s clothline, wore my dancing shoes again after half a decade, drew all my focus to things I could do and stopped lamenting over things I couldn’t. I started taking care of  myself. I also begun gifting myself things I loved. I learnt a lot about falling in love after I fell out of love.

Few months back, I was so unoccupied that I wasted all my time desperately wanting his attention, and today I have to write things down, thanks to my short-term memory loss πŸ˜‚. I have finally accepted my reality, the story of my existence. I turned my anguish into bliss ! He had given up on me, but I’d never give up on myself !

So if you are going through a miserable heartbreak right now, your heart will make you think that this is the end of everything. But let me remind you, nothing is permanent. If love can fade, so can pain. Today, I’m stronger, more successful, a lot independent and more at peace than ever ! BECAUSE I DESERVE TO. AND SO DO YOU!  You’ll not only survive this, but you shall do it with grace and dignity. And I will be your Silver lining ! Those who know me personally or follow me on social media, will acknowledge the fact that I have never lived my life with this much enthusiasm and positivity as I am living it right now. β™‘

P.S – THIS POST IS A PART OF THE COLLABORATION I MENTIONED IN MY EARLIER POST. YOU CAN CHECK IT OUT BY Clicking on the link here. EVERY BLOGGER HAS A UNIQUE STORY TO TELL. PLEASE GIVE THEM A READ BY CLICKING ON THE LINKS BELOW.

1.Altea Addison’s Post

2.Addison D’marko’s Post

3. Nicolle k’s Post

4.Ajibola Sunday’s Post

5.Jane Love’s Post

6.Jothish Joseph’s Post

7.Sadaf Siddiqui’s Post

8. Ipuna Black’s Post

9. Barb Caffrey’s Post
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I PRESENT TO YOU- COLLABORATION WITH A PURPOSE.

You and I both know that everything has a time. Everything is so limited. Yet, when we lose someone it’s always a surprise ! It is so sudden ! You get so numb ! You can’t realise or understand what just happened ! Haven’t we all felt that at a particular time in our lives ? But a lot of us don’t talk about it. And a lot of us do. A lot of us chose to grieve in silence. Grieving is a price you pay for love. Where there’s great grieve, there’s great love. Nothing haunts us more than the things we don’t say. 

I don’t think the loss of someone is the hardest part. The hardest part is compensating for them every single day ! Continuously filling the void someone left you with ! You’d be whole again, but never the same. Nor would you want to. The worst moment is when you feel pain just by remembering the good old days !

It’s a feeling where you don’t understand whether you’re dying beneath the waves or you are dying with thirst !

So me and 9 other mega bloggers have come up with this amazing idea of a collaboration where we talk about a particular loss in our lives and how we coped up with it. It will be a series of posts. I will provide you the link of all the bloggers who are contributing to this collaboration. 

You can click and read more about our chain of posts, that we intend to publish on the 19th of April, 2017.

Let me introduce you to our bloggers, who are not just immensely talented but also super amazing, beautiful and compassionate human beings. And here they are-

1. Jane love

2.Ipuna Black

3.Barb Caffrey

4.Jothish Joseph

5.Sadaf Siddiqui

6.Addison D’Marko

7.Ajibola Sunday

8.Altea Addison

9.Nicolle K

10.Tajwar Fatma ( Well, That’s me)

In the hope that our little attempt will inspire a lot of you to get over a particular loss, because only you hold the key to a beautiful future that awaits !  In the hope that you believe us, that we are all in this together ! In the hope that you find solace in our words and move on just like we did !  In the hope that you shall find your way, just like we did !

With loads and loads of Good Luck and Love,

Tajwar Fatma.

Lines that inspire #6

With loads and loads and loads of Good Luck and Hope in everything that you do. And, I wish that you succeed today in your fight for a happy survival ! AND, yes, I want you to believe me, that even if you don’t succeed today, start again tomorrow, BECAUSE WHO KNOWS TOMORROW MIGHT BE YOUR DAY, TOMMOROW MIGHT BE YOUR TRANSITION β™‘

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Thank you β™‘

Did I thank you all recently for this ? 

Yes, 500 likes on my blog !

For those who don’t know me, I am Tajwar, a final year medical student from India. I started this blog  on 28th of December, 2016. I write on life and human emotions. I am not a Grammar Nazi. I write as simple as I can so that people can relate to it. I pour my heart out when I write a blog. All my blogs are inspired from my life and I’m pretty sure that the things I write about are common for a lot of people ! 

For a person who has never written before, this isn’t just a milestone. This is memory ! Something I’ll never forget all my life! 

TODAY, 10th of April, 2017 will always be a special day, not only because of those 500likes, but because of the love and persistent support you people have shown me. 

I am so thankful to the circumstances that made me start a blog of my own. I am so thankful to each and everyone of you, for being so patient with me. I’m so thankful to everyone who liked my blogs and an even bigger THANK YOU to everyone who commented on my blogs.

I love interacting with you guys. So please feel free to leave a comment if you really really like my blogs. Who knows we might end up being best friends?

Again, in the most humble way, I am so so so so so so so so grateful to all of you. Having such amazing readers and friends is a privilege that only a few people get. And I’m glad that I’m one of them.

Grace to the almighty! 

I love you all very much. β™‘

Tajwar.

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How to contact me?Β 

I have been very busy lately because of my college fest. And also our 8th semester exams are almost here, though I haven’t read anything yet ! Those who aren’t from India, wouldn’t be aware with the semester system here. 

Here’s a quick Intro.

I am pursuing M.B.B.S. from a college in kolkata, India. M.B.B.S. stands for Bachelor of Medicine and Bachelor of Surgery. It is a 4 1/2 year long course with an year of internship at the end. So in total it is a five and a half year course. It is divided into 9 semesters, each semester being six months long. At the end of every  semester, we have an exam which adds into the internal assessment, which ultimately adds into the final score of that year. 

A lot of people have been wanting to talk about my blog and how I want it to grow, my future plans and if I’m open for any collaborations.

You people can send me an email if you want, but I very rarely check my emails. I opened an Official Facebook page for my blog. Do Like and Follow it, if you really like it ! And for any queries, send me message there.

Here are the details. Click on the link to access.

1. Official Facebook page for this blog

2. tajwar.fatma1@gmail.com