Why do you need to fail ?

This is something that always keeps me motivated no matter how bad my day has been. Life is going to be cruel at times..it is going to knock you down real bad..bitter truth, isn’t it? We will encounter failures more often than we’ll encounter success..we’ll have to see sadness and despair again and again and again. BUT, just because you failed at something, doesn’t mean you’ll fail in everything !

How I deal with failures ?

I mourn over it for two days or maybe three. Then I move on. I never let it stay with me for more than 3 days.

When life hits you hard, hit back harder !

IDENTIFY YOUR STRENGTHS- Each one of us has different calibre and different potentials. Thinking that achieving the same goal in the same time with the same approach is vague. Unacceptable. Unrealistic.

For example- Take the five fingers in your hands. Each one of them is different in size, girth, length and strength. Each one has a different functional property. If the fingers of your own hands have such disparity, how can you expect everyone to be at par with their achievements and winning abilities.

HUG YOUR FAILURES -What we need to acknowledge is failure is a part of success. You have to fail constantly in order to grow. Failures make you thorough with your mistakes. Failures are like Mock test papers, they get you ready before the actual test. Failure is inevitable. And nothing comes easy. Failures give space for your skill and knowledge to be mastered.

NEVER EVER reinterpret your failures as your gains.
Don’t engage in hedonic editing and convince yourself that failures don’t matter. THEY VERY MUCH DO ! If you don’t learn from them, it is unfortunate!

RECOGNISE WHEN YOU HAVEN’T SUCCEEDED.- A lot of us don’t welcome our failures warmly. It changes us. I believe that the ability to accept your mistakes and recognise your errors will help you avoid the same failures again. Recognizing your error means there are more chances that you’ll re-cast it into something that has better chances of succeeding.

ALWAYS BE OPEN TO FEEDBACK AND CRITICISM- It will help you deal with failures in a very professional approach.

DON’T QUIT- We quit so easily when things go wrong. Getting down, losing and failing at something isn’t failure at all. My friend says, we either win or we learn. Failing is when you refuse to get up!

When it comes to failing, our egos are our own worst enemies. As soon as things start going wrong, our defense mechanisms kick in, tempting us to do what we can to save face. Yet, these very normal reactions — denial, chasing your losses, and hedonic editing — wreak havoc on our ability to adapt.

LET IT GO- Your failures won’t define you.

What you really need to do is see beyond the hopelessness and misery and start again with lots of new hope and lots of determination to succeed and lots of optimism to combat any failure whatsoever. Good luck !

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