I am me.

This is me. With or without make up, I am the same person on the inside !

Some find me beautiful. Some don’t. The truth is my face is as scarred as my soul. I am me, more than just this pale yellow face and this pear shaped body of mine. It took a lot of scars on my soul and my skin, some on the outside, a few on the inside, to make ME.

My life hasn’t been a child’s play. None of ours has been. Has it? I have worked really hard to be right exactly where I am at this moment. Success for me, unlike a lot of you, isn’t just about studies or my profession, it’s about how I evolve everyday. I have neglected my body and my face for a long time for this evolutionary success. I have sacrificed friends, family and loved ones for this. I’ve learnt about depth and defeat. I have known suffering, struggle and loss. Mirrors tell me what I look like, but they’ll never tell me who I am !

People have told me nasty things about how I look and a certain way I should look, right into my face. They label my love for fashion as my insecurity. When I do makeup, they call me fake. When I don’t, they call me ugly ! TROUBLE DOUBLE STANDARDS, as I call them ! We, Humans, fail to realize the impact our words can have on someone ! Isn’t it ironical, how we are all fighting and struggling everyday, trying to better ourselves, yet we never fail to look down upon others?

Beauty is a power, a power no one can have over you. I call myself names (potato being my favourite ), but the second someone else calls me that, I promise to smash their heads right into the walls, cos, I haven’t given them the power to !

Dear girls and boys, your beauty is more than all of these imperfections combined together, your beauty is how you treat someone beneath you, how you hold yourself, calm and composed, when you are having a bad day, how you elevate your self and the people around you ! There can be someone with the same name and the same size and the same color as you, but there can be no one  JUST LIKE YOU ! THE INCREDIBLE YOU ! THE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT YOU !

The aim of this post isn’t about some daring no-makeup look, it’s about acknowledging yourself. It’s about realizing that Beauty is a spirit ! Beauty is confidence! Beauty is self acceptance!

Repeat it after me please: Today, I solemly swear to acknowledge myself more than this face, more than this body. I might have a broken heart along with terrible, terrible eye bags, acne, stretch marks, pores and pits on my face, tan on my body, hairs everywhere, fat exactly where I don’t need it, scars on my soul, yet I chose to acccept myself, and I shall do that over and over again. Because I am me. My existence has a story. Every single scar over me has. My life is a beautiful journey full of surprises. Beauty should not be my pain. It should be my salvation. It should liberate me. I am, because I am me. And I am worth it.


But there’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark
You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are
And you don’t have to change a thing, the world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful

– Alessia Cara

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53 thoughts on “I am me.

  1. What a captivating post, I love it and I hope everyone who are really fighting against insecurity should see this. self compassion will bring about positive self image which will bring about success; and success in this context is being happy and living up ones potentials.
    Thanks Taj for sharing about yourself in order to help others. Stay blessed.

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  2. We, Humans, fail to realize the impact our words can have on someone !
    Sadly, this is very true. Many fail to realize the power of words. Words can kill and destroy lives. That’s why before I used to tell myself that “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” but now, I have made it a habit to always find something nice to say. So suppose their dress is not the kind i prefer, I understand that everyone is entitled to their own tastes and preferences. Hence, I find something else to comment on… perhaps their smile or the vibe they radiate.
    (Except when I have to correct an err. πŸ˜‰ )

    Thank you for this. I love how you impact your world with your experiences and words of wisdom. You’re a role model to many. Myself included.

    Dear girls and boys, your beauty is more than all of these imperfections combined together,…”
    I agree.

    There can be someone with the same name and the same size and the same color as you, but there can be no one JUST LIKE YOU ! THE INCREDIBLE YOU ! THE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT YOU !
    πŸ‘ πŸ‘ πŸ‘ πŸ‘ πŸ‘

    Today, I solemly swear to acknowledge myself more than this face, more than this body. I might have a broken heart along with terrible, terrible eye bags, acne, stretch marks, pores and pits on my face, tan on my body, hairs everywhere, fat exactly where I don’t need it, scars on my soul, yet I chose to acccept myself, and I shall do that over and over again. Because I am me. My existence has a story. Every single scar over me has. My life is a beautiful journey full of surprises. Beauty should not be my pain. It should be my salvation. It should liberate me. I am, because I am me. And I am worth it.

    I felt refreshed and motivated when I said that. Thank you.
    For giving us ALL of you.

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  3. I am 39, all my hairs have turned white. People kept on saying to dye my hairs.

    My personal take is, dyeing your hairs is lying yourself and to others. It’s an artificial sense of security that we have black hairs.

    I am comfortable with what I had.

    Who says you are not beautiful, I think they have big complexity of their own.

    The 1st and foremost thing is that you have to be comfortable with how you look.

    I don’t press my informal clothes, when I go out. I wear clothes to cover my skin. That’s what clothes are for.

    I have never wear anything to show to anyone or to impress anyone.

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      1. Yes you need to feel comfortable first what you are, if you listen to people they will never be happy with you. One will be happy 4 will be having mix feeling 2 will not be happy at all, and some will be hyper or jealous.

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    1. Thank you so much Dear Ipuna.
      You are an inspiration for me. So when you appreciate my work, I feel like I’m on cloud 9 πŸ˜‚
      Haha ! I have always been constantly motivated by you. So a lot of what Im today, is definitely your miracle. Thanks for always being an anchor to my ship β™‘

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    1. I agree to you 100 percent ! Im so glad to have you around. We definitely need optimistic people who give positive vibes all day throughout the year.
      Thank you so much Richard for stopping by and reading. Have a great week β™‘

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    1. Im always so delighted to read your comments ma’am.
      And yes a lot of us are very insecure about how we look. At days, even I feel so low..but then I remind myself of the wonderful things I’m capable of and I remind myself of the amazing people around me who constantly push me towards being better, one of them is you ma’am.
      Thank you for always supporting and appreciating my work. Have a great week ma’am!

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  4. A great post as always, Tajwar! They say true beauty comes from within, and you certainly are! ❀

    On a side note, I don’t bother wearing make-up because I hate ’em. One of the rare women on Earth, I’d think. πŸ˜›

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    1. Thank you Nicolle. Aren’t you a sweetheart ? Yes you definitely are !
      And Nicolle there’s nothing wrong if you don’t wear a make-up. Do what you want to do. After all these years of self hating and finding flaws in myself, I have finally realised 7.1 billion people donot and cannot have the same thoughts or same likes. You should do things, that suits you and makes you happy. I love getting dolled up. Also, on certain days I dont feel like getting dressed up. So, what I want to say is love what you do and do what you love. I hope it resonates with you. Love ya β™‘

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